一些许久不见，或者在心里占据相当分量地位的亲人或朋友。
或许这是佳节的一种魔力。
当然，也可以称之为一种良知……总觉得不会这样想的人是铁石心肠，妄称为人。
最近，看了一部电影《Family Stone》，一部关于圣诞的电影。
儿子把女朋友带回家，全家人都不喜欢，都不能和这个女人相处。甚至连看似亲切开明的母亲都不能容许儿子将她娶过门。所以执意不肯把祖母的结婚戒指给拿出来。儿子很不开心，觉得家人不尊重他，和大家大吵一顿！
但是，剧情急转直下，原来母亲这么坚持，是因为母亲患了绝症，不想在临终前看见儿子娶一个不适合他的妻子而痛苦……
儿子哭了，母亲哭了，阿不当然也泪流满腮。
剧情是感人，但是显然阿不是思念起了亲人……
不说，相信大家也知道。
再最近一些，一位朋友从上海回新，大伙儿又有理由相聚。
刚好选择在一家非常热闹的火锅店。
虽然外面下着细雨，但是由于人潮汹涌，可说是一点情调都没有。
但是，大家应该都吃得很开心。
其中，有为人师表的，有执法人员，有人民英雄，有才华横溢的，有终日劳顿的，有已为人妻的，有已为人母的……大家的生活背景是如斯不同，十多年来，本来相聚的机会和次数是越来越少，阿不简直以为这一群朋友又可能要渐渐“散”去……或许大家已经不再需要大家，大家已经有了新生活，碰面也可能没有共通的语言……但是，一旦坐下来后，火锅汤开始沸腾，大家的情绪也开始起来……
调侃、揶揄、讨论、叙述、了解……还真的有说不完的话题。
从宝宝爱看什么书到人民英雄如何除害的过程，从调侃阿不再次情场失意到某某友人的丈夫在外是否应该小心外遇……哈哈，“散”字是怎么样也扯不上任何关系。
这都是佳节的魔力。
但是，这里说的佳节，是否相隔太久远呢？
有另外一个友人说最近有佳节气息，很轻松……
很想享受一番……没有错。
但是，每年也就这十几二十天属于这样的气氛，一年疲劳累计下来，哪里够现代人平衡生活呢？
四个字：及时行乐。
有位朋友和阿不分享了一个power point，阿不将之摘录到此和大家分享。
We convince ourselves that life will be better once we are married, have a baby, then another.
Then we get frustrated because our children are not old enough, and that all will be well when they are older.
Then we are frustrated because they reach adolescence and we must deal with them. Surely we’ll be happier when they grow out of the teen years.
We tell ourselves our life will be better when our spouse gets his/her act together, when we have a nicer car, when we can take a vacation, when we finally retire.
The truth is that there is no better time to be happy than right now.
If not, then when?
Your life will always be full of challenges. It is better to admit as much and to decide to be happy in spite of it all.
For the longest time, it seemed that life was about to start. Real life.
But there was always some obstacle along the way, an ordeal to get through, some work to be finished, some time to be given, a bill to be paid. Then life would start.
I finally came to understand that those obstacles were life.
That point of view helped me see that there isn’t any road to happiness.
Happiness IS the road.
So, enjoy every moment.
Stop waiting for school to end, for a return to school, to lose ten pounds, to gain ten pounds, for work to begin, to get married, for Friday evening, for Sunday morning, waiting for a new car, for your mortgage to be paid off, for spring, for summer, for fall, for winter, for the first or the fifteenth of the month, for your song to be played on the radio, to die, to be reborn… before deciding to be happy.
Happiness is a voyage, not a destination.
There is no better time to be happy than… NOW!
Live and enjoy the moment.
-Author unknown
Now, think and try to answer these questions:
1 – Name the 5 richest people in the world.
2 – Name the last 5 Miss Universe winners.
3 – Name the last 10 Nobel Prize winners.
4 – Name the last 10 winners of the Best Actor Oscar.
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Can’t do it? Rather difficult, isn’t it?
Don’t worry, nobody remembers that.
Applause dies away!
Trophies gather dust!
Winners are soon forgotten.
Now answer these questions:
1 – Name 3 teachers who contributed to your education.
2 – Name 3 friends who helped you in your hour of need.
3 – Think of a few people who made you feel special.
4 – Name 5 people that you like to spend time with.
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More manageable? It’s easier, isn’t it?
The people who mean something to your life are not rated “the best”, don’t have the most money, haven’t won the greatest prizes…
They are the ones who care about you, take care of you, those who, no matter what, stay close by.
Think about it for a moment.
Life is very short!
And you, in which list are you? Don’t know?
Let me give you a hand.
You are not among the most “famous”, but among those to whom I remember to send this message…
在这里，那些看到阿不这篇杂文的朋友至少都是……
Some time ago, at the Seattle Olympics, nine athletes, all mentally or physically challenged, were standing on the start line for the 100 m race.
The gun fired and the race began. Not everyone was running, but everyone wanted to participate and win.
They ran in threes, a boy tripped and fell, did a few somersaults and started crying.
The other eight heard him crying.
They slowed down and looked behind them.
They stopped and came back… All of them…
A girl with Down’s Syndrome sat down next to him, hugged him and asked, “Feeling better now?”
Then, all nine walked shoulder to shoulder to the finish line.
The whole crowd stood up and applauded. And the applause lasted a very long time…
People who witnessed this still talk about it.
Why?
Because deep down inside us, we all know that the most important thing in life is much more than winning for ourselves.
The most important thing in this life is to help others to win. Even if that means slowing down and changing our own race.
If you send this email, perhaps we will succeed in changing our heart, perhaps someone else’s heart, as well…
A candle loses nothing if it is used to light another one.”
So, what have you decided? Trash this or send it?
阿不没有send 也没有 trash……
阿不藏在心里，好好珍惜……
与大家共勉之。
p.s: 不过，还是要祝各位圣诞快乐，永浴佳节气氛中！
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